Hi Alfie 116,
You both have a lot of issues to sort out between the two of you in reality honest communication between the two of you will bring you both to the truth of this r/ship and whether or not it can be worked out so both of you can be satisfied that there is room for improvement if you are ever going to be a couple who are going to grow together and stay together with a better kind of understanding and trust if you don't have trust in a r/ship then it will crumble and fall apart everything else follows and falls into place when two people have trust, respect and the right kind of love for each other.
You cannot make something work it either will or it wont be right for the pair of you from what you have both experienced with each other in the time you have been together.
R/ships will come as far as they are meant to for whatever reason, and if there are children or a child involved the best thing two people can do if they cant be together as a couple is to be friends and always be there when their child needs both parents to let them know they are loved, cared for and their parents are have their best interests at heart.
As grown up we need to get past any of our emotional feelings, about a separation and be the kind of parent that puts the child first as they do not know or understand why Mum and Dad are not together if they are very young.
It can work out so the child/children do not have to be in any sort of emotional stress or caught up in their parents indifferences it is not fair or right to use children against their partner or make them feel bad if they want to see and be with their Mum or Dad parents need to put aside their indifferences with their partner in front of the children/child so that child can grow up not emotionally stressed but knowing both parents were there for them in times of need .
I hope it does all work out for you both and you both can settle any indifferences you have with each other or with yourselves as an individual so you can start fresh with new energies and most of all be there where it matters the most to your child.
No one but yourselves can sort out any issues you have together or as individuals there is counselling for couples who need help beyond what they try to work out for themselves.
There are many layers to r/ships and the problems in r/ships all couples have some more than others those layers need to be peeled off one by one and worked on so both are satisfied all negative energy that they have between them that cause doubt, mistrust, disrespect, and arguments are honestly faced and dealt with both taking responsibility for their own hang ups, faults, and issues they may have of trust where they are constantly not trusting a partner that has come maybe from past experiences of having a bad or hurtful experience with a partner that did cheat in that r/ship which would have been a karmic learning lesson anyway between two people.
Cheating on a partner will be forgiven or not it is up to the individual to decide they can trust again or not live with that emotion that will destroy the r/ship in the end anyway...
I feel there is a lot of soul searching you both have to do being completely honest to each other and yourselves about why this r/ship is where it is...
All answers and the truth come from honesty not denial.
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