Its good that you have your own opinion,
As part of my spiritual work, I pass on any valuable and hopefully helpful advise from my guides and from my own experiences of over 50 years dealing with r/ships, so to give someone a better understanding of why things go wrong and don't work out as we had hoped and why we shouldn't take it personally when they do, because any r/ship we have teaches us valuable wisdom about ourselves , the truth of ourselves and others and it is all part of our growth here and for the growth of our soul, that is why some of us will have karmic learning lessons and some don't need to if they have worked through their issues as couples in previous lives, so they come here free from all the baggage that comes with a karmic learning lessons, their energies have both been raised to a higher vibrational level of love, respect and understanding for each other that is why you hear people say they are true soul mates they knew when they met they were destined to be together an example of that kind of love and trust on a soul level is my own parents they met young, married young and were together for 59 years
they just knew the kind of love they had for each other would last and that they could rely on each other and would be there for each other through the many difficult and challenging times they faced in life not with their r/ship that was solid but with all that life throws at us to deal with.
A soul mate love is a kinder, gentler love it is one of complete trust, karmic learning lessons are of many different issues where two people have issues and hang ups about themselves, baggage from past r/ships that they are not always aware of until they have a partner that brings them out in them eg...if you have jealousy or trust issues you will attract a partner that you will be jealous of, or not trusting of, if that person isn't doing anything wrong and you keep on accusing them of doing wrong that person will eventually get fed up with you and your hang ups and leave,(and they have every right to) if you cant see what you are doing is wrong or except what you are doing wrong then you will always be wondering why that r/ship didn't work out its because you brought your issues into a r/ship where you needed to learn to trust and not be jealous of another who didn't have those issues...
There is a difference between a soul mate love and karmic learning lesson r/ship as some people including myself didn't know anything about or existed when I was very young starting out on my journey to find love... and learn about life, the energy is different with a karmic learning r/ship and a lot of you will know this because you would have felt it from any past learning r/ships that have been difficult to deal with emotionally to a soul mate kind of love, trust and togetherness.
I would like people to believe in and have faith that there is life, happiness and enjoying life after a break up, once we allow ourselves to get through all the emotions and emotional layers of what we have to deal with that a break up brings, excepting that the experience we chose to have with that person wasn't right for us( but right for the lessons we needed to learn for our growth)from what we experienced that wasn't good for us on a soul level, I think that helps us to heal and move on, if we were not being loved back, if we were not being treated in a decent kind way, if we were the only one giving love, being abused in any way, disrespected in any way, they are reasons for us to know staying wasn't good, healthy, happy, right or fulfilling for us in any way and we weren't growing with that person.
Endings always bring new beginnings to us and trusting in what the future has in store for us that will be better for us helps too.
The one valuable thing I did learn from all my r/ship experiences is this, we all need to allow ourselves to feel good about who we really are and to do what we feel is right for us and for our higher selves not just except second best we are worth more than that.
Not everyone will choose to want a person to share their lives with they go through many unhappy and emotional experiences only to find they are quite happy to be in their own space doing what makes them happy without a partner, we all find what is right for us in life regardless how we go about it or what experiences we have to have to get there what ever is meant to be for us will be.
It isn't the case of if it is energy that attracts two people then why haven't I met someone willing to receive love, it is a case of a person not being in the right kind of energy with lessons still to learn from karmic learning lessons before they can be ready to receive a soul mate love on that level of love you would like to have..... if you programme yourself to believe no one is interested in me then you will attract a person that wont be interested in you because you are setting yourself up for that to happen instead you need to ask yourself what do I need to change about myself and how I think about myself that will allow myself to feel more positive about meeting some one that will be interested in me... if you are in an energy of not believing anything is going to work out for you then it wont because again that is what you are setting yourself up for and with the Universe from your belief patterns, it is your thought patterns that needs to change, if you put out to the universe that you want love but are in doubt of that happening it is no use putting it out there to the Universe in that belief pattern, instead replace any fears or doubts with trust and have more faith in what you can have and are deserving of then put it out to the Universe.... Why not work on to turning your thought patterns around eg... I deserve to be loved... I am loveable... I attract the right kind of love into my life....I trust that Divine timing will bring the right love to me....I am happy, confident, secure and have positive thoughts about the future....those kind of affirmations and thoughts will raise you energy levels to a higher vibration to being more positive...I used to think the same about myself...no one will love me....I wont find love...Its too late for me...etc all these thoughts work against you not with you.
I still believe and this is only my opinion that our energies attract what we put out if we are in a negative frame of mind then everything else around us will be doom and gloom...if we shift our energy to being more positive then we can look beyond not everything going wrong for us and being dark for us and still see all the good things we have in life and have to be grateful for..
If we want someone kind to be in our lives then we need to be kind ourselves to ourselves and others that energy comes back to us it is the same with love until we learn what real love is and give that to ourselves we wont know what we want and don't want in a r/ship that will be loving to us and for us all our emotions are energies we can lower them or raise them.. we can stay stagnant in life and not move forward in life or we can move out of that kind of energy that isn't working for us into a better kind...the choice is always ours.
If we jump straight into a new r/ship
after a break up without first learning anything from that experience about yourself, or why we even chose to bring that particular person into our lives as a potential partner or love in the first place.
Through any fears we have of being alone or not believing we will find love we will attract another learning lesson into our life with a person with at times worse hang ups than us ,instead of first spending time alone to reflect on the experience we just had, except it is over, look at the truth of what it and how it was affecting us emotionally, and allow ourselves to feel all the emotions that will come up that we need to feel to heal, and move on from that experience.. We need to look at asking ourselves these questions when we go through a break up...was I insecure about myself when I chose this person to come into my life?...was I happy within myself?. Was I confident within myself or needed someone to give me confidence...? .Did I feel good about myself?....was I desperate for just anyone to come into my life because I was lonely.?...I didn't want to be left out and have no one?....Was I giving myself any self worth....Was I hoping for that person to put all my problems right for me and make me feel better about myself?.. the list goes on we are all different as individuals and each of us has our own lessons to learn in the way and time we were meant to.
We are the only ones who can give ourselves what we need in the way of inner happiness, self confidence, self worth, self respect, love, and feeling good about who we are when we can do that for ourselves new doors and better experiences including the right kind of love and happiness will come to us .
If we allow ourselves to learn from any experiences we have, we can then take that wisdom into the future with us so we can make better choices for ourselves and handle situations in a different kind of way that bring us to a better outcome we have the ability to make wise choices for ourselves and that comes from trusting our intuition to guide us and help us and we all have it, we can ignore it or act on it we all have a free will and choice to use.
Our Guides and Angels do not interfere with our free will and choice, they are only too happy to help and guide us when they can
but they step back if we need to learn any valuable lesson that is necessary and was chosen by us to learn for our growth here and for the growth of our soul
I hope all works out for you, there is so much waiting up ahead for you that you cant see now
we have some nice surprise in life it all balances out with negative and positive...I like many have had to learn many things about myself, my faults, my strengths, weaknesses, humility (that's a good one) and patience in life, and that we cant force things to happen when we want them too, I don't focus on who I will meet, when I will meet that person, or how I will meet my soul mate I just trust that God in his infinite wisdom will make it happen for me in Divine timing according to my chosen destiny...
Just enjoy life to the fullest you have a lot to look forward to that you cant see now
Life is our greatest teacher as we go along our journey here on this Earth Plane if we choose to learn it is up to us