I am well thankyou.
Grief is a very personal emotional time for us, we go through many stages of emotions feeling sad, lost, tired, not knowing how we feel at times but just know we aren't right within ourselves to get on with life in the way we would like to.
You cannot put a time to grief as we all handle our emotions and feelings differently and in our own time.
There are always going to be certain songs we hear, memories we have of our loved one, special times we shared with a loved one, and the passing date of a loved one, that bring on that inner sadness to us and that is a natural part of grieving.
When our grieving becomes lighter and mine became lighter knowing that I would see my loved ones again when it is my time to leave this Earth Plane, we can then let in some lighter feeling when we think of them with love and happiness instead of so much sadness, that is what helps us to heal remembering all the special times, and lovely memories we did have and share with that person hold and them dear in our hearts still missing them very much but knowing they are happy, safe, healthy and in the most beautiful place you could ever imagine.
Please trust in your heart that our loved ones never leave us, they know what we go through with our grief and they miss us too, but they can be with us and around us with their love and presence and when grief with us becomes lighter we will feel their presence even see them or receive a loving message from them.
Our loved ones will come to us in our dreams and comfort us if our energy is too heavy with grief when we are awake, in our more gentle relaxed state of mind and body our loved ones can be with us as our energy is lighter, I have woken with tears on my pillow when I have been with my son saying goodbye to him when it was time for me to leave him and it is hard because we never want to leave our loved ones and that is why we wake up saying I felt as if I was really with the loved one who passed because we were we astral travel at night and can be with our loved ones where our energy is lighter and can be as one with our loved one.
Our healing within and our grief within becomes lighter when we can send love, thoughts of love and talk to a loved one, they listen they are not a million miles away they are right beside us they love us to talk to them and they will respond in their own way you may notice a blue flash of light in the room with you as I have a lot in my house it is my loved ones letting me know I am thinking of them with love not sadness because they are fine and they tried hard to let us know they are happy where they are with all their loved ones, to get your attention to let you know they know when you are thinking of them and they are still around you they may move things in the house, brighten or darken lights, small items may be knocked over, you may feel a warmth around you, they may touch you gently (as I have felt) or just feel their presence very strongly as if they were standing right with you our loved ones really do try hard to let us know they are with us.
If we focus on sadness for too long, that is the energy we will create for ourselves and stay in, too much of that low energy will make us feel ill, tired, run down, depressed and stuck.
The best healing for us is what we do for our loved ones that have passed and that is to let them know we love them, we miss them, and wish they were here with us, but we understand it was their time to leave and we are happy that they are safe, well, and they are with all their loved ones living on in spirit (as we all do) in the most beautiful place you could ever want to be with God and the Angels his spirit world is amazingly beautiful full of love, warm sunny gardens and magnificent coloured flowers, beaches, beautiful music,animals,(we see our pets again) peace, calm, no illness or worry is there, that all disappears when we pass from this Earth plane so no more suffering just great joy and tears of happiness when we see our loved ones again...
I always say to my Mum, Dad, my son and relatives God bless and God speed that helps them to get on with their spirit life in heaven or the spirit world as you wish to call it.
We all heal in our own way my healing from my grief is helping others my son is my spiritual helper i feel his presence when i ask for his help so i am blessed to still have him close to me i talk to him and i know he is there with his love for me
and that's what keeps me going.
I hope that has helped in some way.